Some people might say that success is also what comes as a result of proper planning, focused action and being prepared to deal with problems. I believe these are essential things in the path to being successful, but what about the people that do all that and simply don’t get there. Is it about luck then, proper timing?
A lot of the times it’s a person’s mindset that determines whether they will fail or succeed. What does “success is a state of mind” mean anyway?
It’s what you think about every day, what you expect from each and every daily experience you have and where you focus on. You think negative thoughts, you will be conditioned to expect the worst and you are slowly leading to failure. Someone that focuses on the positive things as a result will attract more positivism to their life, getting them closer to success.
Sounds a bit like a simple rule and maybe some of you might say it’s too idealistic and not very practical. I am a firm believer in practicality. I have a science background and I like to break my thoughts down and let the power of reason do the classifying.
Visualizing yourself as successful and then believing in it results in these things
1. More confidence
Confidence is key in anything we do! People like being around charismatic people and are generally more attracted to them. If you want to be successful start building up your confidence. That’s a main ingredient in charisma.
Confidence is believing in your own capabilities. You believe you can succeed at almost anything you try, and you are willing to give it your best shot. Have you heard of luck? Yeah, the more you try the luckier you get, so keep trying until you become unstoppable!
2. More determination
Focusing and believing in success increases your determination. Have you ever tried and failed? The more you keep trying and failing the less your mind focuses on the success itself and people start deviating from their goals. We have all been there, you go to the gym for 2 days, don’t see any results, you give up! Then you make up excuses in your head about either postponing your goal (yes procrastination is like masturbation, it feels good until you realize you are… hmm fucking yourself) or you start making excuses in your head that that was never meant to happen, you are not cut out for that and you drive yourself closer to failure.
When you get to this stage go back to step 1, and start visualizing yourself as successful again. Your mind will then start believing more and more that failure is not the end of the story. It’s like sharpening a pencil. It’s an invasive process, but it’s necessary to make the pencil write better. Just think of a failed attempt as one more way that didn’t work out the way you planned, so start planning again, learn from your mistake and make it happen this time! True failure only happens when you stop trying!
3. Fighting the fear of the unknown by creating SMART goals
Ever been wondering in circles because you didn’t know the best approach to get to a specific goal? Maybe you had a great idea in mind but part of the process to make that idea happen was unknown and scary. As a result you let fear stop your determination.
This is where you stop and tell yourself: “you can do this, you just need to break down the process better”
What are SMART goals?
A specific goal has greater chances of happening than a general goal. How do you make your goals specific?
Answer the six “W” questions:
1. Who: who is involved?
2. What: What do you want to achieve?
3. Where: Where is this goal being achieved?
4. When: How long do you have to achieve this goal?
5. Which: are the requirements and constrains?
6. Why: did you set this goal in the first place? what are the benefits, the reasons and the purpose of this goal?
Start measuring your progress, stay on track
Some goals are unattainable: If your goal is to become the first man on the moon you won’t make it happen, because someone else got there first. If your goal is to become an astronaut however, you have to start developing the sets of skills you need to reach this goal. The more time you focus on perfecting your skills the more attainable your goals become.
To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress.
A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were a labor of love.
A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time frame tied to it there’s no sense of urgency.
T can also stand for Tangible – A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of the senses, that is, taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing.
When your goal is tangible you have a better chance of making it specific and measurable and thus attainable.